This is the second part of our discourse “sorry my lady, but you are responsible for you’re not being married”. I hope that you have read part one for a better understanding. If not, please GO HERE.
We saw in the first part how some ladies are sacrificing their marital destiny by their irresponsible actions on social media, especially their dressings.
Talking about some ladies dressings, the adage that says that “the way you dress determines the way you are addressed” is true. It is unfortunate that some ladies, by their dressing, they betray what or who they claim to be.
Yes, men and potential husbands wish to have responsible ladies as wives while as some ladies are dressing irresponsibly like prostitutes, yet they claim that they are responsible while posing half naked and displaying sensitive parts of their bodies.
These sensitive parts of their bodies which they are publicly displaying for very body to see are the parts of their bodies that should be preserved as they are meant exclusive for their husbands to see.
I am saying this because correct men and potential husbands will never close their eyes and go to marry ladies that posted in social media for everybody to see pictures where they posed braless, exposing the full shape of their breasts or pictures where they wore only pants.
The mistake some of these ladies make is that they mistake the admiration by sugar daddies and yahoo boys, forgetting that real men and potential/eligible husbands’ hates seeing such picture of ladies they wish to marry.
Talking about their dressing, some ladies even dress the same way even to churches. I was listening to one man of God addressing the female members of his church about what some of them are wearing to church.
According to that pastor, he explained to them that it is hypocrisy for them to wear to church dresses they may never be proud to wear to attend a job interview.
In addition, one other mistake the majority of ladies are making is their thinking that they will get men they were relating with to marry them by satisfying them with $ex.
One man of God shared the story of a young man living abroad who requested him to help and get for him a wife material. The day the man flew into Nigeria, the pastor took the so-called sister he was recommending to visit the man in his hotel room.
Immediately they arrived, the pastor had an emergency call which he excused them to go and take care of it and return. However, before the pastor could return in less than one hour, the so-called sister had seduced the man who had $ex with her.
After when the pastor returned, the man requested him to take him to the lady he was proposing for him to marry. The pastor not knowing what had happened pointed at the lady and the man shouted, “God forbid”.
The pastor was shocked of what the man related to him as he had judged that lady to be a spiritual sister. The said lady lost out in getting that man to marry her because she thought the man could fall for her if she satisfied him $exually but the reverse was the order of the day.
Moreover, some ladies are responsible for not been married because they pay attention to the wrong thing while neglecting the main or real things.
Particularly, I am referring to some ladies who thought that they could get men to marry them by the style of their hair do or outward adoring /appearance.
I was shocked last year December 2019 when my daughter returned in the evening that day to complain that she could not plait her hair because the woman and her apprentices could not finish plaiting the hair of a lady they start plaiting her hair starting the previous day.
What shocked me was that my daughter said that the plaiting of that lady’s hair started the previous day. That means that it took a full two days to plait one hair.
The Apostle Peter said in 1 Peter 3:3-4, saying, ” Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price
Men and potential husbands are not moved by the style of your hair do, in fact you outward adoring but rather look at the hidden man of the heart,
That hidden man of the heart is not corruptible, is a meek and quiet spirit, and it is said to be in the sight of God of great price
In other words, some ladies are neglecting the hidden man of the heart but are wasting their time and resource on their outward adoring.
As a lady, you have a long way to go in getting a man to marry you if the hidden man of the heart they see in you are not meek and quiet spirit irrespective of your beauty and outward adoring.
. Finally, I wish to counsel you my lady, be absolutely that you are not responsible for your not been married. Shalom!