It was King Solomon that said in Song 2:15 “Take us the foxes, the little foxes that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes”. Yes, there are little foxes that destroy our marital destiny which must be taken out.
Obviously, our marriages are like tender grapes, which little foxes tend to destroy once we allow these little foxes to enter our marriages. This is so because if you analyze some causes of some failed marriages, you will come to realize that most of them are the handiwork of little foxes.
In other words, if you look at some issues that caused some marriages to crash, you may wonder why such little issues could crash such marriages. In this post, we shall be looking at some little foxes that destroy our marital destiny.
In the first instance, one of the foxes that destroy our marital destiny is gossip. Once couples open their ears to listen to and entertain gossip, that relationship is doomed to fail.
The reason is that we take most of the time negative actions against our spouses based on issues that may end up being a total falsehood. For instance, one woman got the greatest embarrassment of her life.
What happened was that she came to me and told me all sorts of lies about my wife, how she was befriending somebody with whom she suspects they were having affairs. Three days later, I sent for her with the pretense that somebody left a package at my house for her.
When she arrived at my house, I called my wife into the sitting room where the woman was and requested the woman to repeat what she told me days ago. She started looking at me, and at my wife because she equally told her many false things about me.
That day, I threatened to take the matter to her husband, and she started weeping, saying that it was the work of the devil. What I am saying in earnest is that you should never listen to or entertain any form of gossip against your spouse. Any information you hear about your spouse, never make use of it without confirming from him/her.
Another little fox that destroys our marital destiny is a wrong association. Remember what Psalm 1:1 “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful;
In other words, there are marriages that crashed because couples kept bad friends, and the bad things they learned from such bad friends made them crash their marriages.
There is this saying which puts it this way, ” show me your friend and I will tell you who you are” that is to say that as a woman, if you always keep company with a woman that abuses her husband, with time you start to abuse your own husband.
In the same vein, as a man that keeps company with a man that always beat his wife, with time, you will find yourself beating your own wife.
The next little foxes that destroy our marital destiny are receiving bad advice from bad friends. This is similar to keeping bad company. For instance, a woman was living happily with her husband, one day, another woman advised her that she submits easily to her husband for a $exual relationship.
The woman advised her that she should use her $exual organ as a weapon to get whatsoever she wants from her husband. According to that woman, she advised her that she should make a demand of what her husband must provide for her before she will satisfy him $exually.
Do you know that for almost one week, the young woman that received the bad advice, refused to satisfy her husband insisting that her husband must provide the items she demanded?
At the end of the week, the woman came home one day and found that the door to her bedroom was locked from the inside. The woman came and sat in the sitting room. About 30 minutes later, the husband came out with a lady.
The wife wanted to fight the lady, but the husband told her that if she does that, he will throw her out of his house that night. After the lady left, the woman was sober and at night, she took her batch and went naked to her husband’s room to apologize for denying him $ex.
She told the husband that it was bad advice from another woman and that she is ready for him any time any day. Despite the fact that the matter was resolved amicably, but the damage had been done.
That was because her husband had contracted a deadly STD during his $exual encounter with the lady he had that $exual encounter with. The point I am trying to make is that you should be careful how you receive advice from other women.
In another development, you should equally be careful who you are receiving advice from. I am saying this because there was a 46-year single lady running an NGO. One day, the lady organized a marriage similar to married women.
As a woman, what do you think that a lady who never married would teach other married women? True to my fear, what she thought of them was that the bible was wrong to ask them to submit to their husbands. According to her, women should know that they are equal to their husbands in marriage.
In other words, they should stop submitting to their husbands. It happened that one of the women that attended that seminar came home and challenged her husband. She told her husband that they are equal and that he should stop lording over her.
The husband of that woman beats the hell out of her and throws her thing out, saying that she should not challenge him in his house. It takes divine intervention for her marriage to be restored.
That is to say, receiving advice from the wrong source is one of the little foxes that spoil our marital destiny. Until I come your way again, stay focused and committed to your marriage, and don’t allow little foxes to destroy your marital destiny. Shalom!