In the world today, it is the manufacturer that best knows the working of the product he has created. Invariable, the detail of the workings of the products are as contained in the manufacturer’s manuals.
In the same vein, it is the Almighty God who originated marriage and as such, He is therefore the most qualified to guide us on the principles or blueprint workings of marriage the world is ruled by secrets and those who know and apply secrets in their various life endeavors rule their world in such areas.
However, ignorance is the bane of many as they are failures in certain areas of their life as a result of ignorance. That calls for the reasons some successful men and women are failures in their marriage and family relationships.
The above goes to show that no matter who you are, if you toil or fail to heed the following marriage principles, your own marriage may be heading for a crash as well. However, couples who diligently implement these basic marriage principles in their marriage, they will surely enjoy a blossoming, successful and exciting marriage.
One of the basic principles of a good marriage is the principle is leaving and cleaving as to become one flesh. We can see this principle in what GOD said in Genesis 2: 24 saying, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
As a man, you must necessarily leave your father and mother and cleave to your wife if you expect your marriage to be a success. One proof that you cleave to your wife is that the two will become one flesh. You can never be one flesh unless you are cleaved to each other.
Another bible translation (Bible in Basic English) puts it this way “For this cause will a man go away from his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and they will be one flesh”.
In other words, to cleave means to be joined together in an inseparable manner as such becoming one flesh. Are you truly joined together with your wife, or can you say truly that you are one flesh with your wife?
Another basic principle is the principle of love and submission: We can see that from the Bible in Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her”;
It was equally repeated in Ephesians 5:28 saying, “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
See also what Ephesians 5:33 says, “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”.
Coming to the principles of submission, the book of Ephesians 5:22 has this to say to wives, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord”.
The same was repeated in Colossians 3:18 which says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands as it is fitting in the Lord”. Love and submission are two principles that work together.
In other words, your wife deserves your unconditional love if you expect her to submit to you and your husband deserves your submission if you expect him to love you unconditionally.
Another principle is the principle of intimacy in marriage: Remember what Genesis 2: 24 said, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
Couples must consciously be intimate with each other before they can ever become one flesh. In other words, couples must create and spend quality time with each other if they are to become intimidate with each other.
I have never seen couples who are intimate with each other that will ever think of going for a divorce. It is an intimacy that fuels the love for each other and without intimacy; love will sour, dry up or even die.
Show me couples that create and spend quality time with each other as to be intimate with each other and I will show you a successful married couple.
Lastly, I wish to point out that your marriage is as good or bad as you make it, meaning that it is couples in puts in their marriage that determines whether their marriage will be successful or not.
Of a truth, I learned something from one of the messages of one Pastor Chidebere Makuo Of Winner’s Chapel. In that message, he made a point that is very true.
According to him, he said that “couples who had been married up to 3 to 5 years and if there is nothing that improved in the life of their spouse, that they are a failure in that marriage”.
I totally agree with him, there must be something that positively improved in the life of our spouse after we got married to him or her. In other words, we must see marriage as a give and take if we must see that improvement in the life of our spouse.
To this end, if you have married up to 3 to 5 ears, I wish to ask you, “What are the tangible things that positively improved in the life of your spouse since you got married to that man or woman”?
I mean to ask, “What are the tangible improvements in the life of your spouse that he/she could look back and be proud of you as to say that he or she is glad to have married you”.
However, in reality, the reserve is the case some couples look back regretting that of the man or woman they married. In other words, couples must consciously strive to do things in their marriage that gets their spouse fulfilled in their marriage?
In summary, the above-mentioned principles are all simple yet if you fail in any of them, your marriage be heading for a crash. Please don’t let it happen. Shalom!
