To fulfill our destiny, the book of proverbs told us that we should “apply our heart to instructions, and our ears to words of knowledge”. This can be seen in Proverbs 23:12
Also, the bible in Hebrew 6:12 gave us solemn advice, saying, ” That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises”. Yes, the verse as seen above summarizes what we should do if we wish to succeed in every area of our life endeavor.
In other words, to fulfill our destiny, we need to give heed to the above advice. First and foremost, the above verse started by saying that we should not be slothful. I looked at the meaning of the word ‘slothful’ in Encarta Dictionaries, and it defined it as being lazy and disliking work or any form of physical exertion.
The World English Bible renders that verse 12 as “that you won’t be sluggish, but imitators of those who through faith and patience inherited the promises”.
In other words, the problem with lots of folks is slothfulness, and as the book of Proverbs 26:15 puts it, “The slothful hideth his hand in his bosom; it grieveth him to bring it again to his mouth”.
Yes, with the advent of social media, where people are getting busier every day yet accomplishing nothing. Some people spent countless hours chatting on social media and doing other things that do not add to their own good.
Some people can stay on the net for hours chatting and visiting sites where they only watch pictures and in the end accomplish nothing. To fulfill our destiny, we should not be slothful (lazy). Next, we are admonished equally to be followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises.
Yes, some failed to fulfill their destiny because instead of following and learning from those who have succeeded in areas of life they are still struggling, they are busy attacking and criticizing such people.
Others, the pride of life made them follow those who had made it in some areas of life. Yet Naaman, a General got rid f his leprosy by following the advice of a little girl, a slave girl in his house see 2 Kings 5:1-14
This reminded me of an incident that happened some time ago. In that incident, a friend of mine, a pastor of one of the local churches, invited me to his office. I was in the pastor’s office when a member of his church, a well-known politician, and a businessman entered his office.
I knew the politician and he knew me. The pastor told the man that he should go with me and that I could be of help in handling his marital problems. The man was having marital issues that his marriage was almost on the verge of collapse.
At that point, the man became furious; the reason was how I could be the person to help him with his marital issues. The pastor calmed him down and told him not to despise me, that I had something to offer him. I got angry myself and got up and told the pastor that I was going.
Finally, the pastor convinced him to go with me and allow me to talk with his wife. I followed him and when we got to his house, I insisted that he must be around while I discuss with his wife.
In less than two minutes after I started talking with his wife on general issues that women are doing in their marriages, that are wrong, which they ought not to be doing.
The wife burst into tears, and she got up and came and knelt before her husband, telling him that she was sorry for her attitude. While the wife was still subbing, I turned to the man and asked him if he would allow me to talk to him, which he accepted.
After a while that I started talking with the man, also on general issues that men are not doing right in their marriage and what they ought not to be doing in their marriage.
The man saw the picture of himself based on what I was saying. I noticed that the man was battling with his emotions. I told them that I wish to give them a chance to reflect on the discussion I had with them. The man called his driver to take me to their church, where I packed my car.
According to what the man told me a week later when they visited my house, he said that when I left, that his wife removed her underwear and started caressing his manhood while she was still subbing.
The man said that he got up and carried her to the bedroom, where they made love. The man further said that they enjoyed their lovemaking that day, more than they ever enjoyed since they got married.
I told the man that the reason was that his wife was ready for him $exually that day, not as before. The marriage of the couple turned around that two months later, the woman drove a 4 runner jeep to my house to thank me. She came with some presents.
According to her, the husband had totally changed his attitude towards her and went and bought a jeep for her. I told the woman that she had equally changed her attitude toward the man and her marriage and that her husband is now happy with her and their marriage.
The above incident was a pointer to prove that what you get out of your marriage is a function of what you know in that marriage. When you pay the prize, you reap the reward.
To this end, if you wish to fulfill your marital destiny and enjoy a successful and exciting marriage, all you need is a push in your understanding of some marriage matters. You can visit some great websites that deals on marriage, read their articles and endeavor to implement their suggestions.
If you feel I can be of help, drop me an email, and I am optimistic that God can use me to offer you some counsel that can bring a positive turnaround in your marriage. Until I come your way again, stay committed to your spouse and marriage. Shalom!