This is the second part of our discourse on the topic “top reasons for crises in marriages, which couples should avoid”. Please, ensure that you have read part one for a better understanding, as this part is the continuation. GO HERE to read part one.
In continuation of this segment, I wish to point out that most crises in marriages are caused by couples taking action or doing things without taking their spouses along.
Couples who wish to enjoy each other and their marriages to the fullest, should try and avoid taking major decisions in their marriages without carrying their spouse along:
One instance, there is a story of a woman who bought a plot of land, build 4 blocks of flats, and rented them out without the knowledge of her husband. The husband only knew of it when one of the tenants came to him to complain to him about a problem between him and another tenant.
Another man built a duplex, furnished it without the knowledge of his wife. The wife only came to know the day they were packed into the new house. Such actions bring mistrust and subsequent causes crises in marriage.
Furthermore, there are couples who take negative actions or reacts negatively based on third-party information without discussing the issue with their spouses. That is, the major cause of crises in marriage is taking decisions and actions based on information from a third party.
Often, most of this third-party information is at the end are found to be false or half-truth. For instance, one woman was heartbroken and devastated when she realized that the information that led to her divorcing her husband was a total falsehood.
Couples should try to discuss any information with their spouses before they make use of any information or react based on any information. Taking negative action or negative reactions as a result of third-party information is like trusting a third party above your spouses.
In addition, to avoid crises in their marriages, one of the crucial joint decisions couples should undertake is decisions with respect to religion. Often, couples belonging to different religions breeds crisis in marriages. Couples should jointly decide and choose one place they should be worshiping.
In Christianity, have you see the reason the bible cautioned us in 2 Corinthians 6:14 saying, “do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness”?
Apart from avoiding taking negative actions or negative reactions base on unconfirmed third-party information, couples should totally avoid third-party interference in their marriages.
Your friends, not even your mother or father, should instruct you on how to relate to your spouse. Your parents could advise, but not instruct, you on issues or matters concerning how you relate to your spouse.
Lastly, in this segment, one other cause of crises in marriages is when couples are not committed to each other and their marriages. Often, it is a lack of marital commitments that results in couples taking action anyhow, without considering the effects on their spouses or their marriages.
To enjoy each other and their marriages to the fullest, couples should be committed to their marriage and as well build strong love and trust for each other.
Couples who diligently guard against these points mentioned in part one and two of this posts, they will see that their marriages will be crises free, and they will enjoy their marriages and spouses to the fullest.
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