This is the concluding part of the series “top secrets for enjoying a successful and exciting marriage”. Hope you have read part one of the series for a better understanding?
If not, GO HERE to read part one for a better understanding of the topic, as this is a continuation of part one. Strive to forgive and forget: Some crises in marriage result from unforgiveness. The unforgiveness among couples causes great harm to their relationship, as there are many couples that are indeed harboring the spirit of unforgiveness in them.
I once settled a quarrel between a couple, and it took the woman more than two minutes to recount all the wrongdoing the husband has been doing to her. The husband used almost the same minutes to recount his own. In fact, I got tired of listening to them. In the end, I told them that I would like to have a look at their diary where they recorded all that they told me, but each claimed not to be having a diary.
I told them that they are a good historian, to have remembered all these wrongs done by their partner, while they could not remember up to five good things their partner did for them. I pointed out to them that they have no problem if they would try to forgive each other and forget. Their problems resulted from their keeping malice and records of an evil done to them.
As that couple succeeded in forgiving and clearing their records of any evil done to them, their marriage started blossoming. So learn to forgive each other assuming your spouse had stepped on your toe and never keep records of evil if you are to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage.
Pay attention to the happiness of your spouse: Intimacy is one of the backbones that sustains marriage relationships between couples. But you can never build intimacy if you don’t create time and pay attention to the happiness of your spouse.
As a matter of principle, your spouse should be your best friend and best of friends, do things together. Many couples had overgrown eating food dining together, bathing together or sleeping in the same bed together. Do you know that some men have no time for their wives? The only time they have for her is when it is time for lovemaking.
You can never sustain intimacy that way, so couples, learn to create time and pay attention to each other. Often go outing together if you are not used to doing so, such as to amusement parks or other sightseeing, it goes a long way to building intimacy.
Learn how to communicate well: It is unfortunate, and I am sorry to say it, some couples use foul language on themselves. Some call each other by their names, This doesn’t show maturity and a good marriage relationship.
It is not that calling your spouse by his/her name is wrong but at the same time, it does not show intimacy, love, and friendship. Couples who are intimate and communicate well easily, quickly, and amicably settle their differences more than those with poor communication.
Above all, Men love their wives, and women respect their husbands: Viewing marriage relationships in the light of the BIBLE, is fundamental for successful marriage relationships. A man who loves his wife will pamper her and will never raise his hands to beat her.
While, a woman who respects her husband will never open her mouth to abuse him. A man who loves his wife and the wife respects him; the couple is on a stepping stone to the enjoyment of a successful and exciting marriage relationship.