Have you ever given a thought as to the reasons the marriages of some couples had failed? Moreover, have you ever considered that any marriage, including your own marriage, is not immune to failure?.
Yes, marriages rise and fail every day, and while some couples are enjoying their marriages to the fullest, some other couples are enduring their marriages and some couples, their own marriages had totally failed.
In other words, have you ever given a thought to the possibility that you could wake up one day and find that your own marriage has failed? You may say God fore-bid, but consider that some couples whose marriages later failed all started very well.
The above situation is the gospel truth, our societies today are full of marriages that are in crisis, marriages that had failed, many of these marriages ended in divorce and some are about to go for divorce.
I wish that you think and reflect over this, because some of these marriages that had failed, couples who were involved in such marriages were some time ago like Romeo and Juliet, deeply in love for each other just as you are currently in deep love with your spouse.
However, you may be wondering what may have caused these marriages to later crash? That is to say that you should realize that what crashed these marriages could as well crash your own marriage if you are not careful?
Even the Bible warned us in 1Corinthians 10:12 saying, “Therefore let him who thinks he stands to take heed lest he falls”. So if you are not careful, what crashed some other marriages, if you allow it in your own marriage, could as well crash your own marriage.
You see, our marriage is like an egg or glass – very delicate and fragile. For such reasons, we are to handle them with care or else it would crack. In most cases, what crashed many marriages started with a crack and as you know, it is never easy to patch a cracked glass or an egg.
So the best way is to prevent a crack. One of the main reasons why some marriages today are engulfed in crises and finally broke down is because couples that are involved in such marriages are ignorantly doing in their marriage what they ought not to do while leaving undone what they ought to be doing in their marriages.
This saying by my people is ever true which says that “good soup costs money to make it” and also “the way you make your bed is the way you will lay on it”. So it is what you garbage in as in computer that you will equally garbage out in your marriage.
Your everyday actions are the seeds you are sowing in your marriage. It is these seeds that you showed that you eventually reap. That is why some are enjoying their marriages to the fullest, while others are battling with marital crises.
Also, our marriages are like a garden, people who took time to attend and water their garden, if you see such garden, they are always evergreen while some other gardens are overgrown with weeds. What is obtained in your marriage is a result of the input you made in that marriage.
In other words, we should ensure that your marriage is on the right course, so be diligent to see that what is obtained in your marriage are the principles that make for success in marriage.
In other words, you should take personal responsibility and diligently work on your marriage to make it work. The first thing you need to do is to ensure that your marriage is built on strong marriage foundations.
The strength of any building is its foundation. Marriages as a building, its strength is its foundation. These marriage foundations, what makes it strong, are as follows:
Any marriage that will last or stand the taste of time must be built on Strong Love. Couples must ensure that their marriages are built on a strong love for each other. Like a garden, couples should take time to cultivate and water this love to ensure that it is ever-growing and never for any reason allow this love to diminish or die.
Apart from strong love, couples must equally ensure that they build a Strong Trust for each other. That is, couples must ensure that both of them have strong trust in each other and never do things that may betray that trust.
What brings crack in some marriages is the betrayal of such trust, and when couples could no longer trust each other, that signal or the beginning of the collapse of such marriages.
In addition to building strong love and trust for each other, couples must equally ensure that invest in creating Intimacy with each other. Couples must ensure that they create quality time to be with each other to create intimacy.
Couples who have strong intimacy with one another never allow any crack in their marriage. You will agree with me, you always tend to fall in love with that person you always spend much time with. So it is necessary that you spend this quality time with your spouse.
Once you lay a good foundation for your marriage, it will be much easier to build on such foundations by working on their marriage, as compared to couples who don’t have good marriage foundations. How solid are the foundations of your marriage? Shalom!