Every day, marriages rise and fall. So have you ever given a thought to the causes of the failure of these marriages? Moreover, have you ever given a thought that if you are not careful that your own marriage could fail?
You should reflect on the possibility that you could wake up one day and find out that the seed for the failure of your own marriage had been sown and germinated.
Looking at what I said above, it is the gospel truth that our society today is full of marriages that are in crisis. Some marriages had failed, as many of these marriages ended in divorce and some are about to go for divorce.
You should think and reflect on these marriages, couples who are involved were some time ago like Romeo and Juliet, they had a deep love for each other just as you are currently in deep love with your spouse.
Wait a minute; you may be wondering what may have caused these marriages to crash? You should realize that what crashed these marriages could as well crash your own marriage if you are not careful?
Even the Bible warned us in 1 Corinthians 10:12 “Therefore let him who thinks he stands to take heed lest he falls”. So if you are not careful, what crashed their marriage could as well crash your own marriage.
You see, our marriage is like an egg or glass – very delicate and fragile. For that reason, we are to handle them with care or else they would crack. In most cases, what crashed many marriages started with a crack and as you know, it is never easy to patch a cracked glass or an egg. So the best way is to prevent a crack.
One of the main reasons, some marriages today are engulfed in crises and marriage breakdown is because couples that are involved in such marriages are ignorant. They are doing in their marriage what they ought not to do, while failing to do what they ought to be doing in their marriages.
My people have this saying that “good soup that it is money that makes it”. Also, “the way We make our bed is the way we will lay on it”, so it is what we garbage in as in the computer that we equally garbage out in our marriages.
Our everyday actions are the seeds we are sowing in our marriages. It is these seeds we sowed that we eventually reap. That is why some are enjoying their marriages to the fullest, while others are battling marital crises.
Also, our marriages are like gardens, people who took the time to attend and water their gardens, you always observe that such gardens are always evergreen while some other gardens are overgrown with weeds. What is obtained in our marriage is a result of the input we made in that marriage.
So to ensure that your marriage is on the right course, be diligent to see that what is obtained in your marriage are the principles that make for a strong and successful marriage. In other words, we should diligently work on our marriage if we want to see our marriages work.
So the first thing we need to do is to ensure that our marriages are built on a strong marriage foundation. What makes these marriage foundations are as follows:
Strong love: Love is the oil that lubricates every marriage, so you should ensure that our marriages are built on strong love. Like a garden, we should take the time to cultivate and water this love to ensure that it is growing, and never for any reason allow this love to diminish or die.
Strong trust: One of the traits that make for a strong and exciting marriage is trust in each other. So you should ensure that both of you have strong trust in each other and never do things that may betray that trust.
You should realize that what brings crack in some marriages is the betrayal of such trust. When couples don’t trust each other any longer, that is the signal of the beginning of the collapse of their marriage.
Intimacy: Some couples have no time for each other as to build intimacy. So if you wish to have a strong and exciting marriage is to ensure that you create quality time to be with each other to create intimacy.
Couples who have strong intimacy with one another never allow any crack in their marriage. You will agree with me, you always tend to fall in love with that person you always spend much time with. So it is necessary that you spend this quality time with your spouse.
Finally, ensure that you have a harmonious $exual adjustment. You should realize that an issue that crashes marriage is $exual maladjustment. Couples with $exual maladjustment, never enjoy their $ex life to the fullest, and they always accuse each other frequently.
Couples who have adjusted to each other $exually, tend to satisfy each other $exually. As such, they enjoy their $ex-life to the fullest. By enjoying their $ex life to the fullest, they don’t allow any crack in their marriage
Once you lay a good foundation for your marriage, it will be much easier to work on your marriage as compared to if you don’t have a good foundation. If you fail to work on your marriage, you have yourself to blame if your marriage should fail.
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