Today, in our society, many marriages are engulfed with many marital crises. Some of these marital crises grow to a magnitude that it crashes such marriages, as many couples will never enjoy their marriages to the fullest because of these crises.
However, I must point out that most of these crises are man-made because some couples are doing what they ought not to do while failing to do what they ought to do or is expected of them in their marriages. So in this segment, we shall be looking at how to build crisis-free marriages.
In the first instance, I wish to point out that most crises in marriages started because some couples are taking their spouses for granted, doing things, or taking actions without minding the effect of such actions on their spouses.
Couples who wish to build crisis-free marriages must endeavor never to take their spouse for granted or toy with their marriages. As said, couples who take their spouses for granted can do anything in their marriages with reckless abandon without minding the feelings of their spouses.
So couples who wish to enjoy their spouse and marriage to the fullest, a marriage that is void of crises, then must endeavor never to do things anyhow that give the impression that they are taking their spouses for granted.
Moreover, couples must avoid living suspicious lifestyles. The truth is that, it is when couples start to suspect their spouses that they begin to take certain actions which they end up regretting at last when they realize the truth.
In reality, some had divorced their spouses before they came to realize that the cause of the crises and divorce were after all false. Yes, suspicion brings about most of the crises in our marriages, and some marriages eventually get crashed.
Couples, who live a suspicious life, do suspect every move their spouses make. The truth of the matter is that it is couples who have skeletons in their cupboard that tend to suspect one another.
Again, it is the level of trust couples have in each other that determines the level of love that couples will show to each other. So if you wish to avoid crises in your marriage, then build a strong trust in each other and don’t live a life of suspicion. Couples must endeavor never to do things that could create suspicion in the minds of their spouses.
To this end, couples must never assume, but be sure of issues concerning their spouses before they react or take action. Many marriages are in crisis today because couples involved made the wrong assumption about certain issues involving their spouses.
In addition, some couples equally relate with their spouses on whom they assume their spouses to be rather than on whom they really are. That breeds crises, so couples should try to avoid that.
Furthermore, couples should endeavor not to live secretive lifestyles. It is secretive lifestyles that breed life of suspicions, and suspicions bring marital crises.
Couples who live creative lifestyles suspect each other, and because they suspect each other, they don’t trust each other. Couples who suspect each other and who don’t trust each other will never enjoy their marriage to the fullest, as such a creative lifestyle will surely breed crises in their marriages.
One practical way couples could prove if they are living secretive lifestyles is the way they use their phone. Can you boldly ask your spouse to answer on your behalf an incoming call on your phone?
Some couples even lock their phones with secret codes so that their spouses will never have access to their phones. Also, there are couples who can’t answer certain phone calls in the presence of their spouse without arousing suspicion?
If you cannot boldly allow your spouse to answer the incoming calls on your phone, or you hide to make or answer your calls, then it is evident that you are living a secretive lifestyle. Moreover, couples who wish to build crisis-free marriages should avoid taking major decisions without carrying their spouses along.
For instance, there was a story of a woman who bought a plot of land, build four blocks of flats and rented them out without the knowledge of her husband. The husband only knew about it when one of the tenants came to him to complain to him about a problem between him and another tenant.
Another man equally built a duplex and furnished it without the knowledge of his wife. The wife only came to know the day they were packed into the new house. Such actions bring mistrust and subsequent crises in marriages.
Couples should endeavor never to take decisions solely by reason of third-party information without discussing the issues with their spouses. A major cause of crises in marriages is taking decisions and actions based on information from a third party.
For instance, one woman was heartbroken and devastated when she realized that the information that led to her leaving her husband was a total falsehood. Try to discuss any information with your spouse before you use the information to make decisions, react or act.
Equally, couples should avoid allowing third-party interference in their marriage relationships. Apart from the use of third-party information, couples should avoid third-party interference in their marriages if they wish to enjoy crisis-free marriages.
Your friends, not even your mother or father, should instruct you on how to relate to your spouse. Your parents could advise, but not instruct, you on issues or matters concerning how you relate to your spouse.
Above all, be committed to your marriage and build strong love and trust for each other. Couples who diligently guard against these points mentioned above will see that their marriages will be crises free, and they will enjoy their marriages and spouse to the fullness. Shalom!.
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