In our society today, some couples are enjoying their marriages to the fullest while some marriages are engulfed with many marital crises. Some of these marital crises eventually grow to some magnitude that it ends up crashing such marriages.
However, most of these crises are man-made because some couples, the reason for such crises is that they are doing what they ought not to do while failing to do what they ought to do or what is expected of them in their marriages.
To this end, we shall be looking at the known issues couples should avoid if they wish to build crises free marriages. One of such issue is taking one’s spouse for granted.
In other words, you should avoid taking your spouse for granted if you don’t want crises in your marriage: In our marriage relationships, it is our actions and reactions that that equally cause the actions and reaction of our spouses.
Most causes of crises in marriages starts when our spouses are taken for granted, not minding the effects of our actions on our spouse.
Couples who take their spouses for granted can do anything in their marriages with reckless abandon without minding the feelings of their spouse.
So if you wish to enjoy your spouse and marriage to the fullest, marriage that is void of crises, then you should never do things anyhow that gives the impression that you are taking your spouse for granted.
Secondly, couples should avoid living suspicious lifestyle: Do you know that suspicion brings about most of the crises in our marriages? Couples, who live suspicious lifestyle, do suspects every move of their spouse.
Couples who have a skeleton in their cupboard tend to suspect one another. Again, the level you trust your spouse determines the level of love, you will show him/her.
So if you wish to avoid crises in your marriage, then build a strong trust for each other and don’t live a life of suspicion. That is, don’t do things that could create suspicion in the minds of your spouse and as well never suspect your spouse unnecessarily.
Moreover, couples should avoid taking actions or reacting against their spouses based on assumptions. Most a time, reasons we react negatively against our spouses on certain issues turns out to be reserve because we acted on wrong assumptions.
In other words, couples should try to be sure of issues concerning their spouses before they react negatively. Many marriages are in crises today because couples involved made the wrong assumption about their spouse.
Some equally relate with their spouses on who they assume their spouses to be rather than on who they really are. That breeds crises, so try to avoid wrong assumptions about your spouse’s actions.
In addition, couples should try to avoid secretive lifestyle: It is a secretive lifestyle that breeds a life of suspicion. Couples who live a creative lifestyle suspect each other, and because they suspect each other, they don’t trust each other.
Couples who suspect each other, who don’t trust each other and will never enjoy their marriage to the fullest as such lifestyle will surely breed crises in their marriage.
One practical way to prove if you are living a secretive lifestyle is the way you use your phone. Can you boldly ask your spouse to answer an incoming call for you on your phone?
There are couples who can’t answer phone calls in the presence of their spouse without arousing suspicion? If you cannot boldly allow your spouse to answer the incoming calls in your phone or you hide to make or answer your calls, then it is evident that you are living a secretive life.
Moreover, couples should avoid taking major decisions without carrying their spouse along: For instance, there was a story of a woman who bought a plot of land, build 4 blocks of flats and rented it out without the knowledge of her husband. The husband only knew about it when one of the tenants came to him to complain to him a problem between him and another tenant.
Another man built a duplex, furnished it without the knowledge of his wife. The wife only came to know the day they were to pack into the new house. Such action brings mistrust and subsequent crises in marriage.
Furthermore, couples should avoid taking decision based on third party information without discussing the issue with their spouses: Major cause of crises in marriage is taking decisions and actions based on information from a third party.
For instance, one woman was heartbroken and devastated when she realized that the information that led to her leaving her husband was a total falsehood. Try to discuss any information with your spouse before you use the information to react or act.
Lastly but not the least is that couples should totally avoid third party interference: Apart from the use of third party information, you should equally avoid third party interference in your marriage.
Your friends, not even your mother or father should instruct you on how to relate to your spouse. Your parents could advise but not instruct you on issues or matters concerning how you relate to your spouse.
Above all, be committed to your marriage and build a strong love and trust for each other. And if you diligently guard against these points mentioned above, you will see that your marriage will be crises free, and you will enjoy your marriage and spouse to the fullest. Shalom.
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