In our society today, there are couples who are enjoying their marriages to the fullest because they consciously took time and effort to build harmony in their marriages.
However, some other couples, their marriages are nothing to write home about as their marriages are engulfed in disharmony and crises.
To this end, I wish to boldly say that what obtained in marriage are what couples inputs in their marriages.
This means that marriages are garbage in garbage out. What then is the current state of your marriage?
In other words, is there harmony or disharmony in your marriage relationship?
Whatever be the case, I assure you that you can from today consciously build harmony in your marriage. That is, you can build a harmonious marriage relationship in which both partners are happy and fulfilled in their marriage.
To achieve that, the starting point is to consciously fulfil the Bible injunction of Romans 12:16a which says “Be of the same mind toward one another”. Couples who are of the same mind on a number of marriage issues, they enjoy their marriage to the fullest.
In other words, couples must come to the place where they have the same mind, the same judgment, the same outlook and as well as the same goals.
Such couples have given up their individuality without losing their creativity.
However, to be of the same mind toward one another does not come easy because it require both hard work and conscious effort of both partners to make or see it happen.
In this post therefore, we shall be looking at certain areas in which couples should strive to build harmony in order to enable them to enjoy their marriage to the fullest.
The starting point is to answer first the love question in your marriage. Love is the oil that lubricates every marriage. So what is the level of your love for each other and their marriage?
You should know that perfect love is love that is pure in which there is no condition attached.
Couples who love each other deeply, they are ready and willing to pay any prize to keep their spouse happy and fulfilled in their marriage.
As such, they try to avoid anything that could offend or hurt their spouse or make him/her unhappy.
In addition, couples who wish to enjoy their marriage to the fullest, one other area they need to build harmony is their $ex life.
It is highly unfortunate that $exual disharmony is one of the major issue that brings about crises in marriages. This has equally crashed some marriages.
What I can’t understand is why what God intend for mutual enjoyment of couples could turn to be the issue that brings crises and as well crash some marriage.
When it comes to the issue of $ex in marriage, it takes two to tangle.
In other words, what I mean is that there must be a mutual understanding among couples on the matter $ex in marriage.
That is to say that husbands should show discipline or restrain when it come to $exual demand to avoid over demanding of $ex from their wives.
At the same time, wives should show love by been ready and willing to satisfy their husbands $exually whenever their husbands desire $ex.
As I said above, when there is deep love among couples, $exual disharmony does not arise.
I said this because such couples are always ready and willing to pay any prize to keep their spouse happy by ensuring that he or she is satisfied $exually at all time without any condition attached.
Moreover, another area that couples need to build harmony in their marriage is the issue of management of income in their family.
I have come to observe that income management is an issue that creates disharmony in many homes or marriages.
To cure this issue or problem with family income management, couples should strive to ensure that they have at the center stage in their marriages the individual financial independence.
To have financial independence, it means that both spouses have control of certain individual income to take care of their personal needs or expenses without depending on each other.
As well, both spouses should see the income that comes their way as belonging to their family not themselves alone.
In another development one of the issue that cause crises in some marriages are women who rather than complimenting their husbands, they are competing with them.
In oher way round, equally there are husbands who abandon their financial responsibilities at home, leaving the responsibilities to their wives.
The above should never be the case; the income of your wives should only compliment that of husbands and husbands should never leave the financial burden of taking care of their family to your wives .
Couples who consciously build harmony in these areas, they enjoy peace and harmony in their marriage.
As well, they enjoy their marriage to the fullest, so both of you can build and achieve the harmony in your marriage from today.