Most a time I watch Emmanuel TV, I used to hear Senior Prophet T.B. Joshua say, “Good is not enough, the better is yet to come”. The same is true of our marriages, meaning that no matter how good or bad your marriage is at present, the better is yet to come.
In other words, even if you are today enjoying a good and successful marriage, there is still room to move to the next level of enjoying a better marriage. This means that there is still room for you to enjoy a better marriage.
So we shall be looking at transforming your marriage as to enjoy a better marriage. However, you can never enjoy a better marriage unless you accept and are persuaded that your marriage is still not good enough as there is still room for a better marriage.
One of the things that will enable couples to enjoy a better marriage is that couples should strive to transform their marriage by doing things especially new things that bring out the best out of their spouse.
When you do things that make your spouse happy and fulfilled, the tendency is that he or she will try to bring out the best in him or her that will make you happy as well.
For instance, I was listening to Pastor Makuachukwu Chidiebere of Winners Chapel preach one Sunday. In that message, he shared how one woman came to him crying that she wants to leave her husband that he was a monster.
The pastor after a session of counseling with the woman told her certain things she needs to do and things she should refrain from doing in her marriage. According to the pastor, the woman went and implemented all that the pastor told her.
After some month, the same woman came to him to confess saying, “I don’t know that my husband is a loving and caring husband”. The reason for the transformation of the husband was the new attitude and actions of the woman which ended up to bring out the best from her husband which made her confess that her husband was a loving and caring husband.
In other words, a change in the actions and the woman’s attitude brought the best out of her husband which made the woman who earlier said that her husband was a monster to turn around to confess that her husband was a loving and caring.
What some couples don’t understand, is that the happiness and fulfillment of their spouses fuel their own happiness and fulfillment?
If your spouse is not happy and fulfilled in that marriage, it will, in turn, affect your own happiness, you will never be happy yourself.
Ways you can make your spouse be happy and fulfilled:
- You should try new thing you having not been doing before. For instance, as a man but you have not been taking her out before, try and start taking her out and see the result.
- As a woman, assuming that your husband used to beg you before you satisfy him $exually before, try and get ready for him and let him know that you are ready for him if he wants to. This will surely lead to his more love for you.
- Also as a couple, when last did you buy gifts for each other? Couples who have not been buying gifts for each other should start doing so and see the transformation of their marriage. This will surely lead them to enjoy a better marriage as this will increase their love for each other.
Moreover, one of the thing that easily transforms marriage is spending quality time together as to build more intimacy with each other.
To enjoy a better marriage, you must necessarily spend time with your spouse to build or cultivate intimacy. with each other.
Furthermore, if couples who wish to enjoy a better marriage, they should learn to better their communication with each other which could transform their marriage. Most a time, it is communication breakdown that crashes most marriages.
Again, to move to enjoying a better marriage couple should learn to transform their marriage by not over stressing or over amplifying the shortcoming their spouse. Rather, they should celebrate the positive qualities of their spouse.
Definitely, there are certain qualities that you saw in your spouse that made you chose to marry her and there are certain qualities that you saw in your husband that made you accept to marry him, so learn to celebrate those qualities.
Moreover, to enjoy a better marriage, couples must learn to resolve any misunderstandings or conflicts that may arise between them. It is unresolved conflicts that crash most marriages, so you will transform your marriage and start to enjoy a better marriage once you don’t allow any misunderstanding and conflicts to linger in your marriage.
In addition, to enjoy a better marriage, couples should never take their spouse for granted. Quite often, it is couples that take their spouse for granted that does things without bothering to find out if their husband or wife is happy or not as a result of such actions. Couples should never take any action without considering the effect on their spouse.
Finally, if enjoying a better marriage is your desire, then you should strive to play adequately your role in that marriage and couples who have the overall success of their marriage at heart never abandon any thing that needs to be done by saying that it is not his or her responsibility.
Until I come your way again, stay focused on enjoying a better marriage. Shalom!