Some marriages that crashed or ended in divorce, when you consider that they are once like Romeo and Juliet, you may be wondering what may have caused such marriages to crash?
Like products, you must necessarily follow the manufacturer’s manual if you want the product to serve you better. However, if at any time you decide to go against the instructions as contained in the manufacturer’s manual, that product may begin to malfunction.
In the same manner, God the creator and designer of marriage have certain instructions on how to run successful marriage set out in the Bible. Whether you are keen on Christian religion or not, if you go against these instructions, your marriage is heading for a crash.
So the major reasons why many marriages crashed are because some men and women went or deviated from the instructions God gave concerning marriage.
The first of such instruction is seen in Ephesians 5:25 which say “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it”.
Also, Ephesians 5: 28 say “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself”. In other words, a man who fails or deviates in showing love for his wife will surely cause a crash of his marriage.
The reason is that other negative things do follows men who have no unconditional love for their wives. I wish to ask you, “To what extent do you love your wife?
It is men who don’t love their wives that treat them as trash. It is such men that file for divorce to get rid of their wives once there is no love.
On the side of the women, some whose marriages collapsed wondered why while they caused the crash because they went against the instruction of God’s on Ephesians 5: 22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Also in Genesis 3:16 one of the curses God placed on a woman says, “To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; in pain, you shall bring forth children; your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”
Putting all these verses together, once a woman refuses to be submissive to her husband, who refuses to respect and accord the husband the headship of a marriage, such marriage will surely crash.
I remember one incident in which one man beat the wife merciless and what was the cause? The reason was that the woman attended one marriage seminar which was organized by a 46 years old single lady running an NGO about women.
In the seminar, the single lady was accusing the Church of being responsible for caging women in marriages. According to her, she said that the church is wrong by teaching that women should submit to their husbands because a man and a woman are equal in a marriage.
As a result of that teaching, one woman came home and began to challenge the authority of her husband which resulted in her husband beating her. Another woman, her husband throws her belonging outside asking her to leave his house.
The Geneva Convention talks about equality of man and woman in a marriage. However, what that is saying is that a man and his wife has an equal right to a marriage not that they have equal authority.
As a woman, God clearly stated that the man is the head of the family and that he shall rule over you. So any day you woke up and decide not to recognize and accept your husband as the head of the family or accord him the due respect as the head, from that day, there will be a crack in your marriage which will eventually bring it to crash.
Wise women don’t challenge their husbands over who is the head of the family. They wholeheartedly allow their husband to play the role of the headship of the home while they accept to be the neck. You should realize that the head is been controlled by the neck.
Practically, my wife is submissive in all things and as a result, I endeavor not to do anything that could hurt her or make her unhappy. I allow her to take the final decision most a time we have differences in opinion. She does that and comes to tell the decision she has taken.
One man witnessed such one time and said that I allowed my wife to control me. I boldly told the man that it was not controlling me that I allowed that because of her submissiveness.
In a marriage in which a man loves his wife unconditionally and the wife submissive, love in that marriage will flow. Also, and they will enjoy a successful and exciting marriage. However, once love and submissions are lacking in any marriage, such marriage will surely crash.