In our society today, the issue of domestic violence is the order of the day and so rampant that you wonder what is happening to our marriages?
According to la Casa, Inc, “Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior which establishes power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat of violence”.
Not all domestic violence is physical. It can be emotional abuse, economic abuse, sexual abuse, threats, using male privilege, intimidation, isolation, and a variety of other behaviors used to maintain fear, intimidation, and power.
Domestic Violence is often called Spousal Abuse, Woman Battering, and Wife Bashing. https://www.lacasainc.org/
La Casa, Inc further said, “We believe domestic violence and abuse can be overcome. We believe that dignity, social justice, safety, freedom from abuse and the pursuit of happiness are basic human rights for all, rights that can only be realized with the active engagement of the entire community.
According to domestic violence.org, anyone can be a victim! In other words, domestic violence victims can be of any age, $ex, race, culture, religion, education, employment or marital status. Although both men and women can be abused, most victims are women.
Children in homes where there is domestic violence are more likely to be abused and/or neglected. Most children in these homes know about the violence. Even if a child is not physically harmed, they may have emotional and behavior problems.
Furthermore, the issue of domestic violence or women battering or wife bashing as it is called had grown beyond proportion and worrisome in our society that there need to be solutions or ways to curb them.
A closer look at our marriages, it is necessary to pinpoint some major issues that cause domestic violence and the way to curb them. Quite often, when a woman comes out with battered face and body, many are quick to condemn the man outright. http://www.gistmania.com/talk/topic,334017.0.html; http://www.gistmania.com/talk/topic,334003.0.html:
First and foremost, domestic violence results in marriages in which men fails to follow one of the Biblical principles or God’s principles of marriage as can be seen in Genesis 2:24.
That Book of Genesis 2:24 says “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” A man who cleaves with his wife and is one flesh with her would never have the mind to raise hands against her.
It is only in marriages where men fail to cleave to their wives and are not one flesh with their wives. Such marriages, men raise their hands anytime anywhere to hit their wives.
In order words, cleave to your wife and when two of you succeeds to become one flesh indeed, you see her as part of your own flesh and as you cherishes your own flesh, you equally cherish her. As you cannot abuse your own flesh, you will never abuse her.
Secondly, we see domestic violence in marriages where men fails to heed God’s instruction as contained in Ephesians 5:25 which says “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it”
It is only when love is absent in a marriage relationship that men easily raise their hands to hit their wives. A man who loves his wife, who cherries his wife will never be happy if his wife is not happy.
I know how I feel when my wife is not happy and I hate to see tears for any reason in her eyes. Is it me then that will now be responsible for causing her to shade tears? This is equally so with men who love their wives and will never raise their hands against their wives because of the love they have for them.
In other words, to curb domestic violence, men ensure that you love your wives deeply. When you love your wife, you will cherish her and will never do anything to hurt her.
Again, show me men who are involved in domestic violence and I will show you men who had broken the hedge over their marriages. The hedge over their marriage is broken when men break their marital vows by having affairs with another married woman.
The very day any man climbs another man’s wife to have affairs with her, that day something dies in his own marriage. Something leaves his life and his marriage which he may never recover in his lifetime.
It is when something dies and leaves your own life and marriage that you may never feel it hitting your wife anytime. So to curb domestic violence, ensure that you don’t betray each other by breaking your marriage vows.
Again, domestic violence results when a woman punctures the ego of her husband. Every man no matter his status has his ego to protect and preserve. As a woman, you should never do anything to tamper with that ego.
This ego every man possess it and as a woman, if you despise that ego by disrespecting him, you are looking for domestic violence. Some men lose their cool when that ego is tampered with by their wives.
Therefore, to curb domestic violence, you should as a woman never do anything that could tamper with the ego of your husband’s ego. You should respect him and never open your mouth to abuse him.
Watch out for part two and the concluding part