Your marriage, how had it fared since you got married? I am asking this question because there are some whose marriages crashed in the year. Some, their marriages were almost on the verge of collapse, even though they managed to hold on to their marriages.
However, there are couples who enjoyed their marriage to the fullest since they got married. I wish to point out that no matter how your marriage fared since those years, you can have a total marital breakthrough and turn around.
Because the key to enjoying a marital breakthrough and turnaround is in your hands, you are therefore the one that determines whether you will enjoy a marital breakthrough or not.
There was this couple whose marriage was almost on the verge of collapse toward the end of last year. However, by the grace of God, after I had some counseling sections with them, there was a total turnaround in their marriage.
Recently in the month of January 2017, I met that man and inquired about his marriage, and I was happy with his response. He told me that “this year 2017 is his year of total marital turnaround and breakthrough.”
What of our own marriage? We can as well turn our marriages around. In other words, we can as well have a marital turnaround and breakthrough. All that is required of us is to get to know what we need to do and what not to do in our marriages.
Secondly, we must be willing and ready to pay the necessary price to achieve our desires. The prices are simple and not grievous. The first of what we need to do is to focus our attention on how to get our spouse to be happy and fulfilled in our marriages.
With our commitment to our spouses and marriages, if we will succeed to make our spouses happy and fulfilled in our marriages, you will observe that we will as well be happy and fulfilled in our marriages.
This is so because the reason some marriages don’t succeed is that some couples focus their attention on what will make them happy and fulfilled, not minding whether their spouses are happy and fulfilled or not.
The point is that the level of happiness and fulfillment we enjoy in our marriage determines the level of happiness and fulfillment we help our spouses to enjoy. However, to have a turnaround and a marital breakthrough will be determined by how we handle these three pillars of marriage. The pillars are money, $ex, and communications.
Many crises in marriage are the result of poor handling of finance. If we fail to manage family finance very well, other aspects of our marriages will be drastically affected.
The best way to handle family finance is to follow God’s principles of marriage in the first place. The principle is “to recognize and play our role in our marriage”. In God’s principle of marriage, the man is the head of the family.
As men, we must adequately play that role very well by taking good care of our families by providing for their needs. The moment we fail to play that role, there will surely be crises in our homes.
In the same vein, as a woman, you are inviting real trouble in your home for you to challenge the headship of your husband at home. Rather, all that women require doing is to complement their husband’s efforts and things will work fine.
Secondly, coming to the issue of $ex in marriage, poor management of $ex related matters are crashing many marriages as days go by. So, if we wish to see this year as a year of total marital breakthrough and turnaround, we must handle the issue of $ex in our marriages very well.
In other words, $exual maladjustment is responsible for the crash of some marriages as compared to having harmony in $exual matters.
Quite often, men are responsible for $exual maladjustment in marriage. Yes, some men are so selfish when it comes to $exual matters. They are selfish in the sense that they seek to satisfy themselves $exually without bothering to ensure that their wives were satisfied as well.
To this end, I wish to ask you as a man, when last did you bring your wife to come, i.e., to have an orgasm during the $exual relationship? The point is that some women submit to their husbands for $ex as a show of responsibility, not that they ever enjoyed $ex themselves.
As a Man I am myself, one secret I wish to drop for you is that we should avoid treating our wives as $ex symbols that are out to satisfy our $exual desire. Rather, we should ensure that our wives are equally satisfied as well, by bringing them to have an $exual orgasm.
As a man, if you will succeed to ensure that your wife always has an orgasm during each $exual relationship, I assure you that you will never persuade her again to have $ex with you. The reason is that she will always be ready for you as she knows that she will equally enjoy it as well.
Moreover, as a woman, if you will at all times try to satisfy your husband $exually, you will observe that he will live long for you because a lot of tension and stress which are silent killers are removed after $exual relationship.
The next pillar of marriage is good communication, which results in intimacy. One of the great things women desire to have in their marriage that makes them happy is intimacy. Some men are equally guilty of denying intimacy to their wives by claiming that they don’t have time.
Some fail to understand that some women value our intimacy with them more than the big cars we may have bought and kept for them. Women, even though their husbands bought big cars for them, they are still not happy in their marriages because they are lonely in their marriages.
If couples will take care of these three pillars of marriage, they will surely be enjoying a total marital breakthrough and turnaround in their marriages. Shalom!
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